This post sort of follows on from the online dating post from a little while ago. Before I started dating again I was perfectly content with where I was in life and where things were going. When I’m not looking for guys I’m much more of a cool cucumber and don’t really think twice about them. However, after being on a few dates and getting back into the world of getting to know new people it made me start thinking about not being single any more.
I know it made sound crazy that going on a few dates with a few boys has made me start thinking about how I didn’t want to be single. I was so used to my bubble of just being me and without looking for it was asked out on a few dates.
I’ll be honest, I really got caught up in my head about being swept off my feet and falling in love again. I’m a romantic at heart and love the idea of love, which can sometimes be a downfall. I’d like to be more of a cool cucumber when dating, but in reality I really don’t know how to be one sometimes.
As much as everyone around me tells me to stop being impatient, which is not easy for someone who is an impatient person, I know they are right. All good things come to those who wait.
So rather than look for someone to put my love into, I’ll put it back into me. Boys are great and all, but at the end of the day I want to be the best version of myself I can be. To keep growing and reaching my goals. And if I keep losing my cool around guys I’ll never find the right one. So if I don’t give a fuck about dating guys and finding someone, it should get me back to where I was before dating. More of a cool cucumber.
It had been so long since I’d been dating and I definitely learnt more about myself. I didn’t think I’d lose my cool and care, but I’m only human. Hopefully the next time I start dating again I’ll put my lesson into practice and not have any expectations or losing my cool cucumber.
Do you have any dating tips or experiences getting back into dating after becoming single? Let me know in the comments below, I’d love to hear your thoughts!