Getting over a friendship is something no one can prepare you for. One day you have someone on your side the next they’re gone. It’s not like a breakup where it’s apparent you aren’t together any more. Some friendships fade, others end in an argument and some just disappear out of the blue.
I am not someone who has a huge circle of friends, I’ve always had a small circle. I’ve had friends come and go over the years, losing some hurt more than others. Losing a friend who has been through a lot with you is difficult to get over.
A little while ago a friend who has been in my life for a long time, literally became a stranger overnight. It literally came out of the blue for me and it hurt me a lot. To literally be ignored by someone who I thought was my friend and cared for me. But as much as it is heartbreaking to lose someone who was once close, I have taken it as a positive rather than a negative.
Hear me out on this, whilst it is hurtful that someone who was supposedly a friend has been lost. It just shows their true colours and intentions. I’d rather someone show their true colours then count on someone who isn’t actually my friend. I don’t have time for people like that in my life, freeing up more time for people who do care and love spending time together.
Getting over a friendship isn’t easy, but the best way I have found to get over the friendship breakup, is to spend time with other friends who you can talk to about losing the friend and of course do the things you love to do with your friends.
There is a saying that goes “Everyone you meet has something to teach you” and I couldn’t agree more. No matter how long someone is in your life for they will teach you something. Whilst unfortunately not everyone we want be in our lives will be there forever, it makes more room for people who do want to be there. I don’t hold anything against anyone who I used to be friends with, I know people grow apart and take different paths. But sometimes losing someone out of the blue or after an argument takes time to get over not having that person to confide in any more.